My mom turned 69 on this special day, 12 Rabiulawal, on top of it being a Friday, a day of blessings, insyaAllah. To me, a day is a day, whether it being blessed or not depends on your actions on that particular day. I want to be blessed everyday of my existence so I should feel special if I know I've done something to deserve that. And nothing else, no birthdays nor anniversaries or festive day can matter to me except I do special things to make it special. Yes I believe special days call for special attention, but sadly, I observe that most people stop there. Other days matter too, don't they? I prefer to do the same special things every day so every day becomes special. Special means attended to with the utmost care and not different from the rest. Like to some people, "special people" means they have disabilities and stand out like a sore thumb. They are special because they require the utmost care and specified attention from care-givers. Every day.
However, Allah knows us better and provides us with specific days in the year for us to do special things. Now these are truly special days and occasions that call for our specific observations, like hajj. Through the prophet's practices, we learn what to observe and what to avoid. It was clear that he encouraged regularity in good observances every day to the point that in Ramadhan, the blessed night of a thousand months was not revealed. Through Allah's mercy He consoles us with the fact that it is better for us to do a little good every day rather than much in one day and none in the rest.
So I did visit Mom and joined my sisters at our regular Friday evening meetings. I did not give her a b'day present though not on the basis of this principle, but due to my usual failings, lack of time and resources. It suits the occasion. No one should go all out to observe something the prophet himself did not. On the other hand, I'd rather give her something because I want to and have the means to not when I'm expected to. However, Allah expects me to please my parents, and i so want to please Him. So on most occasions I do please my parents on account of Allah and I believe this type of sincerity is the best and easiest workable, everyday observance of all.
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